Today I was wondering… Why does it seem to be so difficult to feel happy in our day-to-day life?
Your girlfriend / boyfriend, husband or wife is in a bad mood. The children don’t want to eat their veggies, it was a struggle at work to get a task done, there was a huge traffic jam, whatever…. you get the picture, don’t you? It’s irritating, annoying, frustrating!
In these moments of utter frustration and irritation, you can barely say that you’re a happy person. The look on your face is telling everyone you are not! We so often feel frustrated or unhappy due to these kind of things that just seem to happen for no special reason at all and I am no exception to this rule, guilty as charged.
Everything is relative
In our day-to-day life, there can be a lot of these small things that are bothering us. Now read the last sentence again… a lot of small things, SMALL! These are small things that are in general not as important as the importance we are giving them! Importance is the keyword here! The more importance we give the annoying situation, the more frustration we feel when it’s not working out.
“Everything is relative” said Albert Einstein. And with this I ‘m giving you a very loose interpretation of his relativity theory. But everything IS relative and those small annoying situations as described above are usually not that important. I repeat, Not That Important! While you can’t prevent those annoying things happening, we often are so absorbed by what is happening that we lose ourselves in the frustration of what is currently not working out. It’s like nothing else exists anymore other than this situation we are facing.
Next time this is happening, just take one step back… then look again… If you don’t see it immediately, take another step back and look…
It is all not that important. And there are very few things that are important enough to let them spoil your good mood, spoil your day or spoil your happiness.
Everything has rhythm
Everything has rhythm, unfortunately also annoying situations. And sometimes, you get a whole bunch of them, one right after another…
We get up one morning and find that there is no warm water for the shower. We go for a cup of tea or coffee and forgot that already yesterday there was no tea or coffee anymore and we didn’t buy any. We get dressed and see we’re getting late for work. There is a traffic jam or it takes ages for the bus, metro or train to arrive, and I could go on and on and on, ad infinitum. There are days like that, where anything that can go wrong, will wrong. And you wish you could have just stayed in bed and wait until the day was over and a new morning comes.
The first issue, we take it philosophically. Fine, no warm water, you can take a shower at work or at the sports club. No tea or coffee, you feel you really need this to be able to open your eyes and wake up. Too bad. Looking at the clock, you become slightly stressed but arriving on time is still possible if… The bus, metro or train is not arriving and you’re getting really irritated now. Then when you find out a pick-pocket stole your purse, now you had it! This is enough!
It’s very irritating, annoying, frustrating! But remember, just take one step back… then look… If you don’t see it immediately, take another step back and look again…
There are very few things that are important enough to let them spoil your good mood, spoil your day or spoil your happiness.